Men lie, Women Lie, but Numbers don't

Men lie, Women lie, but Numbers don’t

Men lie, Women lie, but Numbers don’t. This is much more than a rappers slick innuendo towards record sales. It has more of a significant meaning to me. There is nothing more concrete and believable to any group of people than to be shown numbers and statistics. In light of the alleged sexual molestation charges against Pleasure P I wanted to bring awareness to a topic that is rarely talked about in the community of people of color and hip hop fans. There is no height, age, or weight requirement concerning sexual abuse. Social status is not required or a prerequisite; it doesn’t matter if you are rich, poor, working class, or middle class we suffer from this together. I have worked in the social services field for the last 8 years and the things that I have seen concerning sexual abuse has made me appreciate life and my family a lot more. I have seen the after effects of sexual abuse perpetrated against young women and men. I have witnessed young girls so full of life become hollow shells of themselves. I have seen young boys attempt suicide or engage in other self-destructive behavior because of sexual abuse. And the saddest thing that I have witnessed in my years in social services is; I have seen the victim become the perpetrator. The cyclical nature of sexual abuse has perverted our community and changed it for the worst. I have worked with kids, who have identified with the behavior of their attacker; internalized that same level of hatred and done the exact same thing to someone else, not only destroying their lives but continuing the cycle with a new victim. The statistics surrounding this are both shocking and staggering 1 in every 4 girls is sexually abused before they reach the age of 18. The numbers are similar amongst boys. 1 in every 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 18. Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults occur to children ages 17 and under. You would believe that children would be safe in their own home around family but that’s not true. 90% of sexual abuse is by someone who the family knows.
• 30-40% of victims are abused by a family member.
• Another 50% are abused by someone outside of the family whom they know and trust.
• Approximately 40% are abused by older or larger children whom they know.
• Only 10% are abused by complete strangers.

There is no direct age for when sexual abuse to occur: the median age for reported abuse is 9 years old but more than 20% of children are sexually abused before the age of 8. An alarming statistic is that nearly 50% of all victims of forcible sodomy, sexual assault with an object, and forcible fondling are children under the age of 12. These are just the statistics of the people who tell about the sexual abuse; evidence that a child has been sexually abused is not always obvious, and many children do not report that they have been abused. So many young victims may not recognize their victimization as sexual abuse; as is the case with Lil Wayne who openly bragged in his documentary about being molested by a much older woman at the behest of Baby. Then there are the victims who internalize it and never speak to anyone about it at all; over 30% of victims never disclose the experience to anyone.
There are so many psychological, emotional, social, and physical problems that affect survivors of sexual abuse. Children who have been victims of sexual abuse exhibit long-term and more frequent behavioral problems, particularly inappropriate sexual behaviors. Victims of child sexual abuse are more likely to be sexually promiscuous than those who weren’t. Some women who reported childhood rape are three times more likely to become pregnant before the age 18. Some victims of child sexual abuse report more substance abuse problems; 70-80% of sexual abuse survivors have reported excessive drug and alcohol use. Close to 50% of women that are in prison state that they were sexually abused as children.
As it was not my intention to upset or to stigmatize anyone. I just wanted people to understand the seriousness behind sexual abuse. We have to take care of the 39 million survivors of sexual abuse. We failed them once let’s not fail them again.

REBIRTH OF A NATION

The Rebirth of a Nation

Civilization is measured by the woman. If you want to take the world down, the place of attack is the female. If you want to build a world up, you start with the female. A woman is three-times the value of a man, because she brings forth life. Women teach and train the off-spring. When somebody wants to take the world down, they destroy the value of knowledge in a woman. And when you deny education to the female, you are denying it to a nation. When you deny education to a man, you have denied education to an individual. When you deny it to a woman, you have denied it to an entire people. That's how valuable a woman is. - Hon. Elijah Muhammad This is going to be the most sincere post I have ever written. This is dedicated to all of the women I have come into contact with. There is nothing more valuable and precious than a woman. The image of women has evolved and deteriorated simultaneously over time. We have lost respect of the true power that a woman welds. As a society as the role of the woman has evolved we have lost sight of how important women truly are. To only true comparison to the importance of the woman to society is that of the relationship of the Sun to the Earth. The Sun is often unappreciated despite all that it does for the Earth. First off let us not forget that the Sun is the center of the universe and the Earth revolves around the Sun. Most of the life forms on Earth are supported by sunlight. The climate and weather is driven by sunlight as well. Sunlight is also the primary source of energy for Earth. The power of the Sun is vast and is very dangerous. Exposure to sunlight for long periods of time causes cancer and can damage your eyes when staring at the sun for long periods of time. The woman is essentially the same entity as the sun. She is the center of the family and society. The family revolves around the role of the woman. The woman has the ability to breathe life figuratively and literally into a people. As the foundation upon which families and societies are built the woman’s job is vast. Women raise and teach the future of our society how can you not appreciate her and all of her magnificence. It is only through the power of a women can we return our nation to prosperity.
The future of our nation rests in the hands of women. It is a woman who shapes and determines the mind, behavior, attitude, and beliefs of the children. The woman’s role is symbolic of the Virgin Mary; like the Virgin Mary she is the carrier of the child of god. So she must raise her child with the purest of intentions and the utmost sincerity. As men it is our job to protect the women, much like the King protects the Queen in Chess. We have forgotten the importance of protecting our most valuable asset, the Black Woman. We have forgotten this and have allowed the Mother of Civilization to be mistreated not only by others but also by ourselves. It is now during the dawn of a new era that the woman will be placed back on her throne. It is through the Genes of Isis (Genesis) will we once again rise up and become a mighty nation.
I am a man and I’m a womanizer, I love women. However I’m not a womanizer in the traditional sense but in the spiritual sense. I love to be in the presence of women not just to take in their physical beauty but for the inner beauty and the positive energy that they posses. I have been blessed to meet women who generate a positive aura and provide inspiration and motivation just by being in the aura. You know when you are in the presence of someone who has the ability to change the world. You can see it in their written word, in their spoken word, and in their actions. Sometimes you can see it even if they can’t. I am drawn like a moth to the flame to some women because of that power. My biggest mistake is that some misinterpret my true desire. I come across as insincere when that is truly not the case. I want to build not destroy. So to all of the women who have mistaken what my true intentions are I offer my sincerest apology’s to you. Like the Earth I need the light of the Sun in order to thrive. There energy provides me with strength and power. I just want to form a union with them, a union of thoughts, ideas, and beliefs. Together through the alchemical marriage of the soul and intellect we can rebuild our nation. We must first put our faith in our women and ourselves. As the Pledge of Allegiance states “I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America and to the republic for which it stands: one nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all." I pledge allegiance to my sisters that with the help of God to not be divided and rebuild our nation one piece at a time.
“Waiting for the lord to rise I look into my daughter’s eyes and realize I’m going to learn through her. The messiah might even return through her. If I’m a do it I must change the world through her.” – Common – Be

SIX INVENTIONS CHEATERS HATE

The other day at work I was joking around with some of the guys and we were talking about being married and cheating. I said since the 1990’s cheating has changed dramatically and is hard to do if you are in a relationship with a woman who is smart. I said the invention of six things changed the game completely. They asked me what and I told them and everybody was in agreement. I had so much fun I decided to write a log about it.

1) *69 – In the 1990’s the telephone company introduced this innovation. It was designed to give a person the opportunity to return a call that they may have just missed. Unknowingly they changed the dynamics of relationships worldwide. All men have heard stories about their boy’s girlfriend pressing *69 after they got off of the phone because they looked suspicious. Chances were their significant other got the shock of their life when another woman answered. Questions were asked and they usually ended up with the man getting caught. Of course they came out with a way to block *69 but by then it was too late many relationships.

2) Caller ID – Also introduced in the 1990’s Caller ID changed the way cheaters made phone calls. Every call you made from your house to another was electronically documented. If you called a home that had a Caller ID box it was stored the time, date, and number. If a cheater called a number he had to pray that she didn’t call back before his wife or girlfriend came home. Chances were that woman usually called back when you weren’t home and spoke with your woman or girlfriend effectively ending many relationships. The Caller ID box also aided one night stands and jump off’s because they never would let on that they had a person’s number until they were dumped. That’s when they became they stalker calling and hanging up until you had to change your number out of sheer terror of being caught by your girlfriend or wife

3) The Cell Phone – We leave in an era where having a cell phone is mandatory. When they were first introduced to the world they were big and bulky and nobody wanted to carry one. Fast-forward several years later everybody has a cell phone now. There was a time when you could be with your friends drinking or whatever. You could always tell your lady that the payphone in the bar was occupied or broken. No that excuse can’t be used because nine times out of ten all of your friends have cell phones and she has their numbers. Another example of the damage that cell phones have done is a cheater could be out creeping and on a date with a beautiful young lady. One of his lady’s friends will see him and either text his girl or call her informing her that her man is out with another woman. Shit you’ve seen the Avant video, don’t take your love, when the girl took pictures from her cell and forward them to his girl the cell phone has broken up many homes and busted many cheaters both male and female.

4) EZ PASS – The invention of the EZ Pass has ended cheating for many cheaters who drive. When you go through a toll with the EZ Pass it not only deducts the payment but it electronically keeps a record of each location that you drive through. When your wife checks the EZ Pass records and sees deductions from unaccounted for locations she is going to check it out. When your explanations don’t add up she will have you if divorce court with copies of the EZ Pass records as part of her proof.

5) GPS System – The GPS has gotten many cheaters caught due to the relative ease that people forget that they are doing something that they have no business doing. People are used to inputting an address into the GPS when they are lost or need directions on how to get someplace. They also forget to erase the forbidden address as well. This is how a great many cheaters have gotten themselves caught. Their wives or girlfriends check the GPS and see an address that they don’t recognize and either they ask their mate or they investigate further. In conjunction with the EZ Pass the GPS has aided many divorce lawyers achieve monetary settlements that were in favor of their client.

6) The Internet – Everybody knows power of the internet. It has allowed countless people to reach each other and meet. As it has made many love connections It has also become a breeding ground for extra marital affairs and cheating. Black Planet, Single.net, blackpeoplemeet, and MySpace have helped to end many relationships because of a person’s greed. Emails between individuals creeping out have provided ammunition in court proceedings both civil and criminal. Wives finding out their husband is setting up secret rendezvous with their ex girlfriends or husbands reading their wives’ blackplanet notes detailing a secret afternoon love session with her boss. A woman reading her boyfriend’s cell phone bill online. These are just a few of the situations that the power of the internet has caused.